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What to Say to Homophobic Slurs Like "That's So Gay"
Have you ever heard someone say, "That's so gay" to indicate that something is stupid, negative orgirly? You'd be in the minority if you hadn't. According to the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network National School Climate Survey nearly nine out of ten students reported hearing, "that's so gay" or "you're so gay" at school!
A lot of people who would never dream of uttering a racial or religious slur, seem to have no problem using this homophobic one.
So what's the deal?
Unfortunately, being gay is often viewed as a negative thing. As a result, terms used to put down gay people have slipped into everyday speech and are used as a way to demonstrate just how bad the person using the phrase thinks the "gay" thing is.
If a phrase is repeated enough, its origins may be forgotten. Because it is so common to hear, "that's so gay'" plenty of people don't link the phrase to an insult against gay people. Calling someone out for using this slur can be all it takes for the person using it to understand that it isn't simply a harmless expression.
Though it can seem tough, one thing you can do is simply let people know what is really being said when the phrase, "that's so gay" is used to indicate something that's not cool, and that it just as unacceptable as more blatantly hateful terms. Explain that this is a put down with real victims.
Using it perpetuates the negative association people have with being GLBT.
What Is the Right Response?
One school in California took disciplinary action against a student who used the phrase, "That's so gay" after being teased herself for her Mormon upbringing. The girl, Rebekah Rice got a warning and a notation in her file.
Ultimately, her parents sued, arguing that their daughter's First Amendment rights were violated. The courts disagreed, but the case is an important reminder of the power of this phrase.
Here are a few things you can say when you hear, "that's so gay."
- You know, saying that is insulting to gay people.
- I'm sure you didn't mean the extremely hard pop quiz we just had is attracted to the same gender.
- How would you feel if I used a characteristic of yours, like your race or religion as an insult?
- I know a lot of people say that, but I find it offensive. Can you make an effort not to use that phrase?
Over the years, I have called out plenty of kids (and a few adults) for saying "that's so gay." Though many respond positively, more than a few have said, "I didn't mean that it [the romantic comedy, family vacation or whatever else is in question] ishomosexual.I'm saying that it's happy." This excuse is usually given by someone who is embarrassed to be caught saying something inappropriate. My response tends to be, "Come on, we both know that you weren't calling the romantic comedy happy. I'm sure you can think of a better way to say you weren't into it."
What It All Comes Down To
Phrases like "that's so gay" are only okay as long as they are allowed to be.
It might take some work to heighten awareness, and you might not convince everyone to change their ways, but the more people who are called out for saying, "that"s so gay," the fewer will actually continue to say it.
Even if saying that's so gay seems milder than a lot of hate speech, there's just no place for homophobic slurs.
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